I’ll be using the traffic lights as a “shorthand” on my posts from now on. Read on to see what each one means.

For a while now I’ve been wanting to blog more consistently on topics that matter to me. But I’ve held back out of fear of being misunderstood. Some things are more important than others. Some things are worth dying for, some things are worth fighting for, and other things are only worth a fuss.

I’m borrowing this scale from a friend of mine, Mark Simpson, although it may not be original with him, either. Basically, we can split up the issues in our lives into three categories: fusses, fights, and funerals. I’m adding the traffic lights for shorthand.


“Fussing” is a term I learned during my time in the South. When someone fusses at you, it means they make a lot of noise at something you’ve said or done. But there is an overall understanding that the issue isn’t really that important. It might be the fact that you left the door open or let a napkin fall to the ground. “Didn’t I tell you not to let the dog get that?” Stuff like that.

In a marriage that might be remembering to take the meat out of the freezer to thaw, or mow the back yard before it rains. There’s an overall context of love and acceptance, even though at that exact moment there’s disagreement.

Biblically-speaking, I’m going to do my best to realize when a particular topic about which I’m writing is not that important. For whatever reason, I must think it is worth mentioning. But a green traffic light will indicate that in the grand scheme of things, it isn’t that important.


Fights are the real deal. This is when two people or groups of people cannot agree over something substantial. These are things that matter in life: how to rear children, what to do with the paycheck, where to live or work. They can spill over into the world of politics or driving. This is definitely a step up from “fusses” because it influences how we live our lives.

When I write on a topic I think is important for spiritual growth, or it affects people in a significant way even if it isn’t a life-or-death core issue, I’ll use the yellow light. This also means I’m willing to commit serious effort into convincing you of my viewpoint and defending why I believe it is the truth.

I’ll also realize myself and trust my readers will as well that whatever I’m writing about is not one of the ultimate issues in life. If you know me at all, there’s an issue or two you’ll probably guess right now that I’d put into this category.


These are the core issues of life and death. This is defending one’s family or country. What are you willing to die for?

The core, fundamental truths of Scripture are clear and non-negotiable. The virgin birth of Jesus Christ. The inspiration of Scripture. The Godhead. The physical, literal resurrection of Jesus from the dead. These are examples of core beliefs that I cannot and will not relinquish.

I’ll always try to have a spirit of grace no matter what “traffic light” I’m using, but hopefully this simple code will make things easier for people to see what category I’m dealing with in that particular post.

Thanks for reading.

~ Ben